Grieving and Reiki

 I just finished watching the movie, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close.  There were many important parts of the book that were left out in the movie, but nevertheless, I was impressed with the acting and the it was a heart wrenching movie with a positive outcome about healing and grief.  The movie is about a boy named Oskar.  He discovers a key that belonged to his father who died on 9/11 at the Twin Towers.  The key inspires Oskar to find information about it, and in the process he meets many people and eventually is able to go through the process of grieving for his father while reconnecting with his mother.    

Everybody grieves differently, especially children.  In our culture we're given a few days off work and then we're expected to carry on as normal.  Often losing our focus and depression soon creeps in.  Especially if emotions aren't acknowledged and worked through.  I myself went through a long depression after losing several loved ones over a period of 10 years.  I didn't work through my emotions but stuffed them deep inside.  Sure, every once in a while I would have a good cry but then I would tell myself that the cry was enough and now I'm done grieving.  It was refreshing to watch this move and to see Oskar go through all of the stages of grief.  It took him around a year and half to go through the grieving process.  The grieving process can take years and although we will miss our loved one for the rest of our life after he/she leaves, we do come to understand we can carry on living even after he/she has gone.  This is acceptance the final outcome of the grieving process.

Psychatrist Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross discovered the five stages of grief from her research on death and dying.  These stages are:


People often ackowledge physical wounds but neglect emotional ones.  In some cultures it is expected that a family will go into mourning, sometimes leaving their homes, for up to a year after the death of a loved one.  Yet in Western culture it very common to be told our loved one is in a better place, that we need to stay strong for our family, and life goes on.  There is no acceptance of grief, we get three days for funeral leave, eat our funeral potatoes and casseroles dropped off by the neighbors and then off we go to work pretending that everything is fine.

While I know our culture more than likely will never change, there are things we can do for ourselves and our loved ones who are left behind.  Reiki is one of these tools that can extremely useful in the process.   Reiki allows the griever to release their feelings of sadness, denial and anger so often felt.  It helps to heal the tear in our soul made by our loss.  There are times during grieving that emotions are mixed together and  can be overwhelming to process.  In addition, the stages of grief can last weeks or even years if not processed correctly.  Everyone is different and everyone goes through these stages differently.  It's only when we get to the Acceptance stage that our souls are ready for true healing to take place.

Hope and Faith also comes into play.  Faith is belief of a Higher Power (Buddah, Allah, Spirit, God, etc) and it's guidance.  We stay connected to our higher power through meditation, prayer and service.  Hope is given to us through meditation, prayer and service and hope is a step towards healing.

Reiki helps to release mixed emotions and helps you to process and organize your thoughts.  Reiki relaxes the body and helps to release tension in the body.  Affirmations can be sent to your spirit during a Reiki treatment.  I love this affirmation for grieving:

I deeply and completely accept my sadness, emotions, anger and fear.
I allow my spirit to go through all stages of grief and I know it's a natural process.
Today I will go easy on myself and take as much time as I need to grieve without guilt.

Reiki can help with spiritual clarity.  It calms, reduces stress and provides deep relaxation.   Reiki cleans and clears the emotions from being so draining.  Time, love, compassion, divine inner intelligence, and our higher power will help to heal the pain of loss.  Reiki helps to facilitate the healing process of any emotional trauma.  Reiki helps in healing the past, present and future by calling on each time frame and setting an intention to be healed.

If you are in the grieving process, please sign-up to receive free distance Reiki through this site.  It would be my pleasure to send this gift of love and light to you.  Please click here to sign-up.

Grieving is a necessary passage and a difficult transition to finally letting go of sorrow - it is not a permanent rest stop.  ~Dodinsky

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